Fighting the Battle of Motherhood

I was joking around with my best friend’s husband a bit ago about how blessed I am to be able to stay at home with my kids. I don’t get that Sunday night pit-in-my-stomach thinking about going into “work” the next morning. I am so thankful for the freedom and ability to create my own days and spend all my time with my children. But there are moments, days, or even weeks that I struggle. And right now, I feel like life is a battle. Meals are a battle. Naptime is a battle. Getting buckled into the car is a battle. Fun activities are even a battle. I find myself just wishing for naptime and just plain worn out by the end of the day.

It is hard to keep my focus as a mom when the kids have been screaming all day long and I am just tapped out. But when I sit back and think about it, they are just kids with a sin nature (like me!), and it is my job to teach and to train them how to become responsible adults. What an overwhelming thought! When I get into a funk when I feel like I just can’t win, it is hard to get over it. What I have come to realize is that it is just as simple as my perspective.

Knowing myself, my first response to a tough situation would be to get mad, overwhelmed, frustrated, or anxious. I get down on myself because I need to be doing a better job. Instead of thinking those negative thoughts, I need to be proactive with the kids and find a way to counteract the whininess or attitudes. Instead of feeling defeated, I need to focus on the blessing it is to have these wonderful and unique children in my life. I need to reflect on the fact that I am so blessed to be able to stay home and spend my days with them. In those moments when I am wishing I had a job outside the home, I need to take a step back and thank God that I have the opportunity, no- privilege, to stay at home with my kids. (Not that there is anything wrong with working outside the home, I just know that right now I am called to be at home with my kids.)

I hope you know that you are not alone. You are not the only one that struggles or has bad days. Staying at home can feel isolating at times, even if we have a community built up around us for support. This phase of life is exhausting, overwhelming, and oftentimes thankless. Even if you work outside the home, it can be just as tiring. Do the best that you can; you are probably doing a better job than you think. You are fighting the good fight and it will be worth it. You are doing a great thing. God created you to be your children’s mother, not someone else. Keep at it. Keep fighting. We are all in this together.

 

 

Life Lately

To put it simply, life has been a bit overwhelming. I took an unintentional but much needed break from blogging and IG and all that. Here is one of the main reasons why…

We moved!


But back to chronological order. Scarlett had her first visit to the ER a few weeks ago. The kids were being a little wild and despite my attempts to calm them down, it finally ended up with someone getting hurt. Scarlett smashed her face into a glass vase and ended up getting two stitches. She was so tough! My angel of a friend watched the two younger kids and I was beyond grateful. The ER had a crazy wait before we even got to see a doctor! She was so calm and didn’t even cry during the procedure. “No crying, just tears.” She said.
Right when we got admitted. Even with a sliced lip she’s the cutest!


Watching these girls bond is the best thing in the world!


We were then hit with the plague. Eloise got it first, but Levi got it the worst. The poor thing was down for the count for a loooong time. Then Scarlett got it, then Eloise again. December was a tough health month!

Poor Levi. He was so bad off for a few days! I didn’t mind the cuddles though.

We took a short day and a half trip to New Hampshire to go to Marcus’ work party and to check out some houses. I had everything packed, but somehow the suitcase didn’t end up in the car. So after we got to my parent’s house we went and saw a few houses, then ran to TJ Maxx and the grocery store for party clothes and diapers. Nothing like forcing you to be a little more flexible, right?

So on Christmas Eve we decided to put an offer on one of the houses. Spoiler alert, it wasn’t meant to be.  Apparently someone as crazy as us submitted an offer on Christmas Eve too? We ducked out of a bidding war. No point in overspending on a home.

We had such a wonderful Christmas! We stayed home with the exception of my run with my sister. There is nothing like relaxing and enjoying the day with your kids.

Marcus and Eloise when she had round 2 of the cold on Christmas Day. A man and his baby=cutest ever.


Eloise turned seven months old! She is now crawling, pulling up, and moving more than I have the energy for. She’s obsessed with the cats and will scream at them. We love her so!


Our friends from Florida came up for a week and we showed them what winter in New England is all about! We took a 24 hour trip to NH so they could experience snow.


Eloise is still unsure about it.


While at my mom’s house I discovered this gem. I’m the baby on the left: Eloise is the spitting image of me as a baby!


We made a trip to NYC on the train the next day. Because we are crazy like that. But we had a great time!  We didn’t get to bed until after midnight that night. It was  totally worth it!

Somehow Eloise slept the entire time on the train. One less baby to chase=thankful!

The kids and I at dinner. As crazy as life is with three kids three and under, it is totally worth it!

Date night with my sister and brother in law and our friends! Went to a new restaurant in New Haven called Olives and Oil. So good!


I am trying to take more individual pictures of my kids. It’s so tough to when they are all so young! Can you even stand how cute they are?!

This girl. So sweet. So caring.

How handsome is he? And so smart. So silly.

Marcus’ grandfather’s health had declined. Marcus went to Maryland Sunday night and was able to spend the last days with him before he passed. He was a great man!

Packing, crawler edition.

How to pack a house when your kids are young: screen time FTW.

The big day finally arrived! I’m still in denial we moved out. We will miss our first home!


And that’s been the past month. So now we are settling into my parent’s house and waiting (im)patiently for homes to come on the market. Levi has figured out how to get out of his crib, so we are now battling the escapee toddler syndrome. Please, oh please send advice my way. How did you get past this stage? All the tactics we used with Scarlett have been futile. Help!

My Amazon Wish List

Let’s be real here. Christmastime is a wonderful time of year for giving, but that also means receiving, right? I figured I would share what is on my wish list (cough Marcus cough) and maybe provide some inspiration for gift giving for the woman/friend in your life. Here’s what’s on my Amazon list this year! (Affiliate links used)

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 [eafl id=721 name=”echo dot” text=”Echo Dot”] / [eafl id=723 name=”socks” text=”socks”] / [eafl id=724 name=”DW watch” text=”watch”] / [eafl id=726 name=”yhl book” text=”book”] / [eafl id=728 name=”sneakers” text=”sneakers”] / [eafl id=729 name=”leggings” text=”leggings”] / [eafl id=730 name=”boot socks” text=”boot socks”] / [eafl id=732 name=”blanket scarff” text=”Blanket scarves”] / [eafl id=733 name=”puffer” text=”puffer jacket”] / [eafl id=719 name=”pom pom hat” text=”pom pom hat”] / [eafl id=734 name=”belgian waffle maker” text=”waffle maker”] / [eafl id=735 name=”cheese board” text=”cheese board”] / [eafl id=736 name=”lace extender” text=”lace extender”]

I am OBSESSED with my [eafl id=722 name=”echo” text=”Echo”]. Well, it’s actually Marcus’ Echo he got for Christmas last year… But seriously people, you need this! It’s basically a personal assistant. I stream music all day, add items to my shopping list, and check the weather. You need this, therefore you need the [eafl id=721 name=”echo dot” text=”Echo Dot”]. That way you can do all of the above in any room of your house! Done. Order it.

I like to wear taller socks in the winter when I am around the house. These [eafl id=723 name=”socks” text=”socks”] are perfect! Great stocking stuffer too. Great fit and super cute!

This [eafl id=724 name=”DW watch” text=”watch”]. Oh how I have lusted after it for so long. If your girl is a fashion enthusiast, she will love this. Guaranteed. Also comes in a [eafl id=725 name=”mens DW watch” text=”watch”] I bought for Marcus last Christmas! He wears his all the time, so I promise it would be a big hit.

Have you followed Young House Love over the years? I was an avid follower from (almost) the very beginning. If you like to decorate your home, this [eafl id=666 name=”YHL book” text=”book”] is a great tool to guide you!

These [eafl id=728 name=”sneakers” text=”sneakers”] are adorable. Lately I’ve been into the really simple sneaker look. If your girl works out (or just loves the Athleisure trend) then these are a great buy!

Also trending with athletic gear are mesh [eafl id=729 name=”leggings” text=”leggings”]. These are sooooo adorable! Cute and great ventilation. Ha!

My mom gifted me my [eafl id=731 name=”hunter boots” text=”Hunter boots”] for my birthday this year and I wear them more then I thought I would! Love. So naturally, I need a pair of [eafl id=730 name=”boot socks” text=”boot socks”] to accompany them. Please and thank you.

[eafl id=732 name=”blanket scarff” text=”Blanket scarves”] are also new the past couple years. And while it is like wearing a blanket on your neck (my husband nicely reminded me when I wore it last week), who will be laughing when you are snuggly warm and they aren’t?! That’s right. Add to the cart.

I like to wear a thin but warm jacket when I go to the gym in the morning. The one I have I love, but is showing it’s age. [eafl id=733 name=”puffer” text=”This”] is a really cute option! Plus a hood because snow. It’s coming.

I am a bit of a winter accessory hoarder. Do I really need [eafl id=719 name=”pom pom hat” text=”this”] hat too? Yes.

I thought for most of my life that I was a pancake lover. Earlier this year I made waffles instead of my normal pancakes… How could I have been so wrong? Waffles are life. I have a thin waffle maker, but I need to [eafl id=734 name=”belgian waffle maker” text=”get this”] and make big Belgian waffles. Even better!

Charcuterie is my weakness. I could eat my weight in a cheese plate for every meal and be totally ok with it. (My waistline, however, would not be.) [eafl id=735 name=”cheese board” text=”This”] one is really cute! Perfect for holiday parties.

Lace extenders have been around for a bit now. I am not sure how I don’t own one yet? [eafl id=736 name=”lace extender” text=”This”] would be really cute thrown under a simple sweater to dress it up a little bit, or to add length to a shirt to make it acceptable over leggings. Because we all know my [eafl id=737 name=”leggings” text=”leggings”] addiction….

 

Are you paying attention, boyfriends and husbands? Hopefully this provides some inspiration. Let me know what you think and bought! And make sure to report back and tell me how much she loves it.

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